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Turn off the movies!

Wednesday, 19. March 2014 by Renee Ellison


Modern movies are killing the spirits of our children. Make no mistake, modern script writers are re-writing fundamentals, in direct defiance of God.  They are presenting altered realities to the minds of our children.  These are not stories of a boy and his dog, anymore.  These are something else, entirely.

Who is a man?  Who is a woman?  What is a marriage?  (Homosexuality)  What is an animal and what is man?  (Beauty and the Beast—are we supposed to fall in love with beasts?...is sex with a beast next?  The Bible calls this bestiality and forbids it.  We must face squarely that this is where all of this is headed.  It has already arrived in the lyrics of rock music.  This concept is evolutionary at its root—that we are no different from the animals—that we are not made in the image of God.)  Who is the hero?—the one who prays to God, or the one who consults the force and all its minions (wizards, psychic powers, his secret “friend” or aliens of all shapes and sizes)?  Such movies are a deliberate mincing invasion straight into the minds and souls of our children.

In the media, deviance is cleverly always introduced onto the scene or theater first through laughter, but eventually and finally it all becomes normative and wholly acceptable.  Eventually the small excursions in deviance are moved from the edge of theater and from the edge of the plot (used first as sub-plots) to the center.  Swearing, violence, sex and idolatry take over.  These are the ways our children are taught to cope, and the major reality that they now know.  And we desire this?  Foster this?  Enable this?  Do we have three hours of devotions to the living God, in Bible reading and prayer, to offset this?

For 5,900 years parents did not have movies to pacify, calm, or babysit their children, and as a result they produced a different kind of human being.  None of the Israelites allowed someone else to raise their children, either in a pagan school or from a pagan screen.  They did not put them in Pharaoh’s schools, nor in front of the world’s entertainment.  Yes, that meant that Abraham had to figure out what to do with his child all day long.  So he trained him in righteousness, and grew his son’s life skills.  Daniel’s mother, the Messiah’s mother, Moses’ mother all had to do something productive and wholesome the whole life-long day.  This was the norm.

Sadly, today, what is the parent’s convenience will become the child’s addiction. The devil has discovered a way to mainline altered realities into our children, just like a heroin addict mainlines heroin right into his veins.  If a person came into your home espousing these world-views, whispering them into our children’s ears, we would throw him out.  But, instead, because it comes into the home in containment, packaged in living color upon a screen, we march our children to the screen and sit them down in front of these false preachers.  And we leave the room.  These lies about reality are not mainlining into our heads, as parents, for as many hours as they are into our children’s heads.  Not even close, if you add gaming.  We are not experiencing what our children are experiencing, not at all, and we certainly did not experience this degree of unreality in our own formative years.  We are sacrificing our children upon the altar of these deviant realities—the flames engulf their very fragile, emerging souls and spirits, and dive-bomb their entire concept of spiritual truth.

There is another, larger, reality surrounding this one, but we are to go there only through prayer and with God.  He forbids us to enter other realms through mediums, spiritists, wizards, aliens, monsters, supermen and “creatures” found nowhere in this reality.  His warnings are serious.  We can’t handle what is there, and may never be able to get back from there.  Yet we think our children can handle it?! We allow it for hours and hours everyday, while we are freed up to go and do something else?

Our children are not handling it. and spiritual confusion is running rampant in their spirits.  Children now think angels are fairies and that it took magic to raise Lazarus from the dead.  Wake up and determine whether something is devouring the soul of your child.  Realize that if this is so, you will pay for it dearly, both in this life and in the life to come.  Christianity will be a faint memory in the midst of their deliriums, and godly seed will dwindle to hair-raising obscurity—it will hang by a thread.  The scriptures ask: “When the Son of Man comes, will He find faith on the earth?”  Where is your child spiritually and mentally these days?  When someone dies in your family, which song do you want your child singing at the funeral:  “When you wish upon a star”, or “Guide Me, Oh Thou Great Jehovah”?  The choice is made by you, hour by hour.

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Is your child living in unreality?

Wednesday, 12. March 2014 by Renee Ellison


We are living in a culture that is heavily inundated with altered realities.  Its primary clientele?  Children.  We have our children so “doctored-up” with alternative realities through fantasy, gaming, movies, books and toys that they are hard pressed to know which reality they actually live in.  And even worse, they have no idea which reality is spiritually true.

These days, when you attempt to read a Bible story to someone else’s child, if you ask who the angel is who is warning Joseph to take the baby and flee to Egypt, the child is apt to exclaim: “a fairy!”  When asked how Lazarus was raised from the dead, young children have answered, “magic!”  This is serious disorientation, and we are reaping a whirlwind of future trouble by allowing it, encouraging it, “buying it” (someone out there is buying it or script writers wouldn’t be increasingly producing it; how many Christians are among them?) and babysitting with it by the hour.  This is misguided parenting and intellectual fraud; it is mental abandonment at its zenith.  Do we care as much about what goes into the minds of our children as we do about what’s on their plates for dinner?

The God-head (Christ/the Heavenly Father/the Holy Spirit) does live in another realm—in the only legitimate larger reality—encircling this earthly one.  Sometimes God directly invades this three-dimensional realm of earth in a way that we can see, but at all times He influences and is invested in this reality—far beyond what we understand or know.  His sovereignty enfolds all of this reality.  But there is an enemy, close on His heels, sabotaging that one ultimate reality with invitations to other realities that are filled with tinsel, glitter, falsehood, addiction, titillation, skewed versions of “virtue” (where the bad guy wins), idolatry, witchcraft, rewritten fundamentals (such as, who is a man and who is a woman, and who is a human and who is an animal—and who is something else altogether?), grotesqueness and violence.  In the end, these altered realities deliver nothing but delusion.  They do not “outfit” a person to handle real life problems and real relationships in the only real world there is.  Devastatingly, horrifically, sadly, one direction this unreality is leading the vast preponderence (80%) of young men (according to a study cited by Kevin Swanson on his Generations with Vision program) is into the grip of pornography.

Your children do not need more time being entertained. Put the brakes on.  Instead, their valuable discretionary hours can be far better spent learning life-skills, gaining relational prowess, learning a large conceptual alphabet of how the real world works (i.e. an education—about real subjects like physics, chemistry and biology), enlarging entrepreneurial skills, and maturing an ability to know and deeply worship the One who made them and redeemed them.  How many children today know how to pray…rather than to wish upon a star?  How many know the Bible as thoroughly as their TV set or their electronic communication devices?  Our children might be at our dinner tables these days, but mentally many of them are largely in another realm.  This is frightening.  Wake up.  Say no.  Just one walk through the toy department at Wal-Mart could be enough to make a mother go outside and throw up—if she really comprehends what is there.

The three keys to outstanding parenting (part 3)

Tuesday, 18. February 2014 by Renee Ellison


Third: Dangle the carrot of inspiration

In part one we talked about how good parenting hovers over beginnings; part two was about teaching self-denial.  The final part of this series is that the outstanding parent stays out ahead of the child, dangling the carrot of inspiration.

You know where you are headed with your child.  The child does not. He is clueless.  All he feels is the immediate cantankerous day in front of him and all the spots where he is required to do something his flesh isn’t interested in.  Therefore, you must dangle stories of wonderful outcomes in front of him.  Use missionary and historical biographies to do it.

Get the horizon bigger—the landscape bigger—the awareness bigger.  Go big in exposures to excellent personages, excellent accomplishments, and heroic endeavors.  You are raising royal seed.  Get the reading material big enough, and turn off the media until fourth grade.  NO TV; NO movies.  NONE.  (To expose your children to alternate fantasy realities in preference for time spent with the real-deal will saturate your child with false expectations and untruths forever.  It is no gift.)

Through thick and thin overlay this input with inspiration from the Bible by training a thorough knowledge of it.  How you go about this part is critical.  If you drone on with the King James Version and long adult devotions with your four-year-old, you’ll kill his interest, sure as shootin’.  Instead, create emotional bonding with the Bible by carefully making it his favorite book.  How?  Begin reading easy versions of the Bible (with gorgeous large real-life old paintings, not modern impressionistic pictures).  By reading him the Bible you’ll whet his appetite for something besides a life that is only interested in “what’s for dinner.”

Progressively and incrementally, work up to more difficult versions—but keep your Bible versions as picture versions for about the first ten years.  For the first several years, read the Bible to him, over and over, cover to cover, to show him a life larger than his own.

Start and end with the Bible. There is a reason it is the highest selling book of all time and will still be standing when heaven and earth roll up like a scroll.  We’ll wake up to the Bible and its author.  Careful.  Tiptoe through the tulips.  Using progressively more challenging versions, start by reading at first in your own happy voice, with lots of whistling, whew’s and wows over a split second deliverance or a miracle or two, while tucked closely under your wing will do it.

Vigilantly do this.  We live in a post-Christian era.  What you take for granted in your life of faith, is no more.  The entire culture was raised into the late 1800s on the Bible and the solid values of the McGuffey readers—but no more.  The vast majority of people on the streets today are unfamiliar with even basic key Bible figures and stories.  Clueless.  If we’re not careful here, we’ll rob our children of their God-given hub—their ultimate core.  They’ll have nothing with which to tackle all the vicissitudes of life.  We will have taught them the how of life but forgotten the why.  Might as well stay in bed.  No, you get up and tend to this matter.

Blessings on the use then of these three tools in all your parenting. In review, they are:
1…Hover over beginnings,
2…train your progeny in self-denial,
3…and ever inspire them—stay out in front of them with an ever bigger picture of what life is really all about and what they are growing towards.

Resources note/ ideal beginning versions of the Bible:
Proceed in the following order and you’ll create lovers of the Bible:

    • The full Bible (preferably, in large print) (recommended version New American Standard)

The three keys to outstanding parenting (part 2)

Tuesday, 11. February 2014 by Renee Ellison


Part Two: Teach the process of self-denial

In part one we talked about how good parenting hovers over beginnings.  Today we talk about teaching self-denial.

Teaching your child to deny himself starts with giving him an appetite for Almighty God over an engulfing appetite for self.  This is a tall job for a parent.  Nevertheless, we are given it.  The supreme achievement of the mature adult soul is that it finally learns to have a yielded will to God over all issues.  (It is, in fact, the last lesson we learn conclusively.  God alone tells us when the book closes upon our lives.  We cannot pick the exact hour of our birth, nor of our death.  We are not allowed to pick it—if we are obedient.)  We learn that the soul has a Maker and that we were born into a context.  Amen.  So be it.  The final realization of the refined soul is that God does the best job of “us.”  If we, ourselves, were given prescriptive powers over the parameters of our lives, we would mangle it badly.  Should I be born in Ohio or Tasmania?  Who would want the job?  The place of wonderful repose is to cultivate a sweet contentment with our lot and to tend to our immediate duties with love and charity.  Therein lies our joy.

Thus, the job of parenting is to patiently work at subduing the furtive, insistent, immature lustful will of the child whenever it manifests itself—to prepare the child for ultimately doing this with God.  Sometimes it is our duty to be a brick wall against the child’s unseasoned and unruly impulses.  We are to teach the process—what it feels like to give up, to let go of the clenched fist and teeth and to occupy oneself differently—over and over and over again.  To help surrender the will (of the child) to the benevolent will of another (the parent) is our supreme coaching job.  The flesh squirms terribly under this training—yet loves its end results.

We love ourselves when we are full of self-denial, self-sacrifice and self-giving, but we despise ourselves when our vocabularies have been reduced to I, me, and mine.  It has been said that hell is full of the all absorbing disgruntlement of self.

The wisely administered combination of parental love and firmness delivers a child from his own worst nightmare.  He just doesn’t know it yet. So, cross your child’s will.  Get a supple will living in your child—that is happy and content with all outcomes.  Then lavish the child with surprise luxuries—on your terms and on your turf.  The child will get it—that this is real love.  Isn’t that the way of God with us?  His ultimate yeses are often cloaked in His benevolent nos.  We are for the child.  The child’s best self was never in our doubt, as a parent.  Get it done.  Go after that ugly self-will with a “broom” that will have a clean house.  Be vigilant.  Your child’s happiness depends upon it—both now and in the future.

Next: the last post in this three-part series is the carrot of inspiration.

The three keys to outstanding parenting (part 1)

Saturday, 08. February 2014 by Renee Ellison


In this three-part series we will look at three keys to great parenting:
To hover over beginnings.
To teach the process of self-denial.
To dangle the carrot of inspiration.

Part One: Hover over beginnings
All of life has velocity.  Therefore, the direction of the beginnings is profound in its implications. Homeschoolers all have a vague notion of this, or we wouldn’t be homeschooling.  We’ve essentially said to ourselves: “I’m not going to farm out the raising of my child during his most formative years to a complete stranger (or a parade of strangers through the years) of just any ideological and moral persuasion.  I’m simply not going to do it.”  The various “creatures/ teachers” who could wind up teaching our children, if we just happen to be in their path, especially in these days, can be downright frightening.  As a principal I fired a few of these “wolves in sheep’s clothing”—and that was a few decades ago (before cultural norms had sunk as far as they have today).  If you knew their private lives you’d have been stunned.

Even when we have our children at home, however, there are mountains of details of significant importance that we can miss.  Our success lies in our waking up!  We shan’t be asleep at the wheel.  A diligent hovering over all beginnings, as many of them as we can get to, just as thoroughly as we can, gives us at least a fighting chance of impacting our progeny.  Olympic coaches know this “in spades,” as do the parents of concert pianists—they both start their trainings in utero, if at all possible!

From the first tangle of shoelaces, to the first attempt at teeth-brushing, to the first penmanship strokes, to the first bad movie we turn off, to the proper handling of their first lie (from our little darlings?), we plot a lifetime trajectory.  Be there—up close and personal.  If, for example, we resolutely land on the first lie and make the “fur fly” and “nail it” with a gripping story or two of a fellow in a penitentiary who was once a child their age, we significantly diffuse the chance of there ever being a second one.  Beginnings are everything in embryo. So, be deliberate.  Be causative, not casual.  Outstanding parenting does not despise the day of small beginnings, it grips the day of small beginnings—eyes peeled in every corner, ever focused on keeping the end in view.

Self-denial is the next post in this three-part series.

Why should my child play piano?

Sunday, 02. February 2014 by Renee Ellison


Have you wondered why teachers put such an emphasis on young children learning to play the piano?  It’s because it works both hemispheres of the brain and grows mental muscle for attacking all mental disciplines in all subjects.  Piano-playing does this superbly well by involving both hands in different tasks.  I make it a “have-to” subject, just like math, for all of the elementary school years, just until the basics are conquered.  Sure, not every child will become a musician, just like every child won’t become a mathematician—but all children benefit from the fundamental training just the same.  The same goes for speed-typing.  It grows the brain via a tactile grasp of spelling—thus it becomes a positive double-whammy. smile

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Polygamy: Impossible for a godly man

Tuesday, 14. January 2014 by Renee Ellison


Polygamy is a non sequitur.  If it is truly a wife (or even a collection of wives) a man seeks, he cannot attain it in this way. Polygamy shreds to ribbons what the state of having a wife is. Marrying multiple “wives” might be horse-play but it is not a marriage to a wife—any wife or a bevy of wives.  The minute there are two wives there is no real state of love, with either wife.  Here is why.

For there to be real love, there will be jealousy—an appropriate and righteous jealousy.  The Heavenly Father said of Himself, regarding Israel, His one bride, “I am a jealous God.”  It was the one attribute by which He described Himself in marriage.  By HIS demonstration of absolute love, we come to understand that a good man will have a continuing, steady state of an anxious hovering over the state of the affections of his bride, once he has laid down his entire life to win her and to keep her. 

Note that the appropriate jealousy will be from the lov-er to the lov-eeee, not the other way around.  Conversely, jealousies from the lov-eeee to the lov-ER (over what has happened to her husband’s heart), is what polygamy creates. 

A lov-ER is an initiator; a lov-eee a responder.  This is the undeniable psychological case of a true love affair, borne out even anatomically.  So, the one doing the loving all through the beginning, middle and final days of the lifelong love affair must do it totally and single-mindedly, in order to get the most responsive wife possible.  If a woman is constantly being compared to another wife, she will switch from being a responder to being an emotional survivor; she will switch to defensive/protection mode.  Her emotions will shut down, boarded up, closed.  And then the man has no wife.

A polygamist is deluded that he loves.  The very definition of love is total self-sacrifice. He can’t be in a state of love with his wife if he immediately throws her (whom he supposedly loves) into the severest jealousies she could possible experience, by taking on another wife.  And each night that any of his wives are overlooked in preference for a different wife is a night of rejection for any of those wives.  This cannot be love.

Whether it is a love triangle duked out between jealous Jr. Highers, an affair with another man or woman gossiped about on magazine covers, or the addition of another wife, the presence of a third spouse will bring strife into a home.  You can count on it.  A Christ-like lover would never do it.  Legalizing multiple wives, through polygamy, doesn’t bring peace to any home.

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Children: A bother or an investment?

Friday, 03. January 2014 by Renee Ellison


Children who are abandoned, constantly farmed out, delayed, put-off, down the list for years on end, sloppily educated, unskilled, chronically babysat by the screen, etc., become less and less likable, and more and more of a discipline problem. Let us be very clear: it is simply counter-productive to parents themselves, for parents to abandon their children, either incrementally or wholesale.

Conversely, children who are invested in, carefully groomed to be “royalty” of every sort, become more and more likable, irresistible, legendary. Children delighted in and hovered over become less and less of a discipline problem. The potential irritation surrounding them goes away poof….gone…because they are launched with marvelous social skills, strong goals and vision and live with meaning and purpose, i.e. they aren’t just hanging out somewhere in the universe wondering what color to die their hair or where to put their next tattoo…loitering.  Instead, they are influencing the universe. They live contented lives as settled well-defined people—little repositories of the reflection of the glory of God.

Parenting is a hundred yard dash across time.  No parent who clearly understands the eventual outcomes wants to pass through this chapter forever preoccupied. Parents won’t like their children if they don’t train them. Parents love their children if they train them and attend to them vigilantly as they develop. Good parenting is like becoming a gleeful miser who gets to finger his gold after he has collected it. You’ll enjoy your investment more smile, not just tomorrow, but for the rest of your life.

Never be angry with your child over academics

Friday, 27. December 2013 by Renee Ellison


Academic training
Brain development is a scary, fragile process.  If you, as a parent, load it up with disapproval, anger or impatience, your child’s brain may well misfire or shut down.  At that point, you’ll have to start all over again.  Academic pressure and stress will have dive-bombed any mental advancement you were hoping to gain.  Negative emotions over academics can raise an impenetrable wall of resistance in your child that can seem like a concrete blockade that is never coming down.  If that sets up hard, you’ll be looking at weeks and months of patiently and artfully diffusing it.  Habitual patience makes your job just that much easier.  If your child’s lower lip is quivering over academics, back off.

All intellectual growth must take place incrementally.  It should never be overwhelming.  (To gain a sense of what your child feels like when he is in over his head with some new concept, you can go stare at a screen of Japanese letters for a moment.)  Get the task bite-sized enough—a slight stretch—and you’ll make steady progress with no resistance.  If there are tears, you are pushing too hard.

You’ll get the fastest results if you’ll surround academic endeavor with your own cheerful attentiveness.  Studies have shown that when classroom teachers leave the room during an academic session where the students are concentrating hard, the students’ focus goes all to ribbons.  Just your presence helps the child stay on task.  Internal discipline is always learned by many, many experiences of external discipline, i.e. a tutor directing the student’s mind through the task, inch by inch.

If a teacher steadily walks up and down the rows of student desks, the academics prosper profoundly.  Likewise, if you as the parent will simple sit next to your child, pointing to each new thing, this will focus the child in an incredible way.  Parental focus on the child and on the task is the single most effective tool in your toolbox.  If when the child frequently looks up at you for encouragement, he (1) finds you there and (2) finds that his flailing, beginning efforts are met with your warm, loving eyes, you will have success.

This is why tax hikes for public education are worthless.  The more money we throw at public education, the worse the test scores become.  It’s an inverse graph.  Why?  The public sector focuses on academic trinkets, and more glitzy curriculum and equipment—while retaining indifferent, preoccupied teachers, or too many students per teacher.  We know from history, however, that the Pilgrims’ children (with virtually no tax money allocated for schools) were taught in bare one-room school houses, but got twice the education out of their children as a modern child does—because the teacher was “on it”, with one book.  The Puritan teachers gave meticulous attentiveness to the process.  If you hover over every stroke of the pen in teaching beginning handwriting, or shoe-tying, or teeth-brushing, or math flashcards, you’ll embed the right way to do it in your child for a lifetime. It is all about hovering over beginnings.  Don’t turn your back too soon.

If you observe academic stress in your child, do one or more of the following things to remove that emotional resistance:
1. Shorten the task; less is sometimes more.
2. Splinter the task into even more bite-sized pieces.
3. Go wide when you can’t go forward; enrich and stabilize what is already known.
4. Leave it alone and try it again in a few days.
5. Change your teaching approach—try another angle.
6. Go back to the concrete level and proceed slowly to the abstract.
7. Teach it at a different time of day—right before bedtime, perhaps.
8. Teach it in short spurts, with spaced repetition.

See our 12 Amazing Brain Triggers e-book for much more about these and other strategies for the easiest ways to get information into the brain of your child.

Character training
Conversely, make no mistake, moral training requires you to exercise tight, firm, unflinching resolve.  When a child is misbehaving, the parent must level some sort of consequence.  The most effective consequence is to devise something that is seen by the child as against his own self interest.  Do not match energies with his fits.  Remove yourself from the fray.  Pit him against himself, not allowing him to think he is irritating you at all.  Pick some consequence that costs him emotionally and you’ll turn that behavior around, prontito.

Most parents have this all backwards.  They are rough on the academics, but the child is swimming in self-indulgence in his character.  Teach the child self-denial, putting his own will under for the good of another, not once, but over and over throughout the day.  Then if you want to make over your child with your own gushing love impulses (what parent can resist) go ahead at other moments, when you are not engaged in a toe-to-toe conflict of wills.  You can endlessly initiate love activities, but make sure that you have not descended into a “respond-a-thon” with your child.  If you are giving in to your child, contrary to your first commands and wishes and hunches for what is best in the situation, you are creating a future problem for yourself.  Nip it in the bud now while he is young, and you can put your feet up, eat bonbons and take a snooze later.  If you don’t, you may be battling that immature, indulgent will all the way to your grave.

Adolescent freedoms?

Tuesday, 17. December 2013 by Renee Ellison


It is appalling that a recent national survey of over 3,000 adolescents (from all walks of life) revealed that their most prized possession is their freedoms.  “Don’t take away my cell phone or my car.  I’ll hyperventilate if you do; I’ll go ballistic.”  The survey shared anecdotally about an undergraduate high school class being released on the last day of school (for just that year) where the students ran from the building shouting like a bunch of warriors, or a scene from Braveheart...FREEEEDDDDDOOOOOOOMMMMMM.  But what is more to the point is that similar scenes take place everyday in the homes of teens, demanding to escape from their parents, and the house itself.  This is routine.  The struggle to “get free” is growing in intensity.

In light of this statistically-verified psychological state of teens, i.e. it is what really lives in their heads these days, parents were encouraged, as a result of the survey, to walk delicately and not to step on this fragile dynamic.  Restrain your adolescent if he gravitates toward evil, but not by taking away his cell phone or his Internet connection, nor by clogging up his social pipeline.  Huh?

Upon some reflection, one might ask, what is it that these articulate and desperate teens really want?  “Freedom FROM what, and freedom TO DO what?”  Historically, people have shouted (or rather meekly, exhaustedly, unbelievably, whispered) “freedom? at last?” if they have just emerged from a Siberian work camp, or a German concentration camp.  But we have none of that here.  Freedom has not been a pressing urgent word in American for over 200 years.  But now it emerges as an insistence, a veritable air-hose for the adolescent.  In America?

So what is really going on here?  Teens want to escape their homes and their educational institutions, desperate to do what? To smoke weed and cut themselves with peers…asserting, with a hamburger in their hand, “aahhh, freedom.”  But what they really mean by the word “freedom” is lasciviousness.  They want unbridled lasciviousness.  They want no responsibility, no work, no personal production quotients, no input from people who have lived life several decades ahead of them, no have to’s, no context at all that they don’t generate themselves, sometime in the middle of the night, in a dark alley.

The majority of teens desperately want to escape to an unbridled world of their peers.  Peers these days are increasingly sought-after to replace the home, the parents, in an absolute sense.  But let’s get some clarity here.  Peers do not have enough of an experience base to mentor other peers.  It ain’t gonna happen.  What happens is that adolescent peers, left alone, descend into a pool of iniquity together.  And peer pressure becomes a demon in their life they hadn’t counted on.

All of this is a non-issue if one carefully, diligently, lovingly homeschools.  A child never runs from a homeschooled high school “class” wanting to get away from learning, because long ago they realized that there never is a last day, that real learning goes on forever, and that to be involved in it is the human’s happiest state.  For by it the child finds himself actualized, invigorated and thrilled to be alive.  He has no struggle with a deep search for identity, because his unique identity has been under close surveillance and pumped up from the time he was born.  His parents have meticulously groomed his academic prowess, skills and talents from the get-go.  Homeschooling parents are daily launching their child into what God made of him, and that feels good to the child.  It is exhilarating for any human being to be made more ME, and to find God’s calling for ME.  A parent realizes early on that his child cannot run in all directions and get anywhere.  Thus, restraint and discipline become the loving “hands” used to make over the child.  As a result, a maturing discipline becomes the child’s settled expectation and ever-growing satisfaction.

So what is the problem with secular teens, not so trained?  Why do they want to escape?  What are they running from? They are running from parents who are constantly preoccupied with something other than their own child—be it work, their own social life, their own hobbies and projects, their own baseball games, and their own emotional traumas.  So the child wants to escape being ignored.  The child wants to escape educational institutions because they taught him the what of life but never mentioned the why.  It was 12 plus years of a mental life that ignored God at best, and grew increasingly irritated with Him at worst.  So the school strutted forth to became a surrogate God from which the child now looooooooooooongs to escape.  Secular education is not God’s equal.  It is not even close.  The secular teens are right after all, but deluded.  They are running not toward freedoms but from meaninglessness—and now are searching in the wrong places.  Only you, as a parent, can reverse this.